Friday, May 23, 2008
Work-from-home-day
Yesterday I telecommuted. I do this twice a week and absolutely love the flexibility, that I get some housework done, and that I get to watch a talk show or two. Yesterday I watched the Mike and Juliet show. Periodically they have a body language expert on the show who deciphers gestures, facial expressions, physical movement and placement. Apparently they have an ongoing series entitled "Dating Boot Camp". Two women are the "recruits". Yesterday's segment was all about the art of flirting. I learned about walking into a man's personal space then back out to signify interest; not to huddle with girlfriends to give a man an opening to approach; and to lean forward when talking with a man to demonstrate interest. I wonder if women don't spend too much time trying to attract men. Do they spend as much time studying and trying to figure us out? Then we add the element of getting involved with younger men. Sometimes having to act like you're ok with something you really disapprove of is taxing. For example I read about a woman whose 20-something boyfriend ordered Chinese take-out for which she ended up paying since he'd "forgotten" his money. I don't know...all the sudden I feel tired. Think I'll go take a nap.
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Personally, (as a male) I think the best way to attract a male's attention or to show interest would be to simply take the forward approach and be bold. I know this may intimidate some men, but I actually find it quite interesting when a woman initiates the conversation/date/etc. Now don't get me wrong, you don't want to come over the top like some street hussie, but its okay to show a little assertiveness and let him know you're definitely interested without jeopardizing your dignity.
BTW (Tip from a male) once you do show interest, and you do have him on the hook, then you can back off and make him do a little work to stay in the game.
Cougars RULE!
Initiating contact with an attractive man is my standard operating procedure, so I have no problem with such tactics in the least. My best friends back in college taught me well that a wise girl does not allow herself to become vulnerable to the advances of undesirables: she must be proactive.
However, experience has also taught me that younger men are often paranoid about appearing overeager, which leads them into being perceived as unreliable and negligent. Over the last couple of weeks I've been asked out on three different dates (by three different twenty-something guys) that never came to fruition. What is that all about? There's nothing appealing or sophisticated about inconsistency.
Thanks for your comments kenpoguy and trinity0591. My style has always been to sort of passively initiate contact with men. That means I try to make certain that they're interested in me first. It's probably time to cougarize my method. Trinity did you ever hear back from any of your suitors?
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