Cougar wedding gone bad

I've been off the grid for a little bit, but haven't stopped cougaring. First I'd like to give a cougar shout-out to my sister who just met a guy 12 years younger who she seems to really dig and the chemistry is off the charts (way to go sis!). On a more somber note, my other sister's July 4th wedding has been cancelled. She was scheduled to marry a guy, with whom she has a child, who is around 7 years younger. Although this sister and I are not on speaking terms, I truly do feel for her as it was her fiance who called off the wedding and this would have been her first marriage. Now, I believe it is a good thing because these two have had a pretty rocky, explosive relationship throughout, but I would rather be the leaver than the leave-ee any day plus twice on Sunday. One of their many problems, in my assessment, was my sister's determination to force this guy into a committed relationship. I really think people have to come together of their own free will. It should be a steady, naturally progressive process. Now I'm not saying she got pregnant on purpose, but that certainly raised the stakes in her quest to become a wife. It also got me to thinking about the challenges a cougar faces with her romantic choices. Times with the friend-boy are fun, exciting, and endearing, but when I think of a potential long-term commitment with him, I must admit I find the prospect a bit frightening. Especially when I factor in my kids. My son, in particular, needs a solid, emotionally healthy and stable role-model. He will need more than someone to play Playstation 3 with him; he will need someone who can help guide him along the twisty path to manhood or at least won't detour him. Yes, I can let the good times roll, but ultimately there's more than just my needs to consider.