Love and Lust

A few other ladies and I are preparing for my sister's bridal shower tomorrow. At first I was pretty blase, but now I'm kind of getting into it. Because we'd like to be respectful of my mother and our aunts, we'd like to do something moderately racy. I suggested erotic poetry rather than some lean, muscled man-stripper (as much as I'd like this). Today I started searching the net and asked my director (he's cool) if he knew any good sites where I could pull material. This led to a discussion about whether love and lust can co-exist. Apparently he doesn't believe they can, but I do. To a lot of men they are completely separate things. Maybe I am just not getting it. I know that whenever friend-boy and I have "quality time" I am always aware on some level of my feelings for him even though there's a heap of carnality in my mind. I just assumed this was true of him also. I'm feeling some disappointment because this doesn't bode well for a long-term, committed relationship. I did not have love and lust with my husband, but I always thought it was possible. If there's the potential that it's going to be a one-sided thing then that makes me feel like I shouldn't even set my sights that high.